• AxExRx@lemmy.world
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    8 hours ago

    I get it, I absolutely respect someone wanting to be safe, but i think it would also absolutely ruin the date for me. I just can’t really interact the same way in a group as I do one on one. Either that, or I’d end upv mirroring both of them simultaneously and it would end up in a throuple.

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      7 hours ago

      I respect it, but i don’t get it, and it would be a complete deal breaker for me. What do you think a person on a date in a public place is gonna do to you?

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        5 hours ago

        right, this is basically saying “i don’t trust you not to spike my drink, take me to a second location, and rape me”

        and maybe you shouldn’t be online dating at all if that’s where you start out from

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          4 hours ago

          But even then, no one needs to ask you out on a date to do that. Any time you go out in public by yourself that could happen just as easily. If you’re that unreasonably fearful then i don’t want to spend time with you

      • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        2 hours ago

        Nope. Throuple is dating, threesome is a one-time thing. Like if my wife and I have a girlfriend, we would be a throuple. And if we all sleep together, it would be a threesome. But saying “throuple=threesome” is like saying “couple=sex” when the two describe fundamentally different things. One is the relationship between people, and the other is just a physical act.

        Nice condescending attitude though.