I learned what non violent communication is a day ago and I’m using it to mend a friendship.

Have you however used it at the workplace?

I find it unpractical: there are so many things to do at the workplace and the last thing stressed people with deadlines need is to have a conversation about feelings, but maybe I’m wrong?

A question for nurses working bedside: do you actually use non violent communication at your ward with your patients and actually have time to do your other duties, like charting, preparing infusions and meds, dealing with providers, insurance, the alcoholic who fights you, the demented one who constantly tries to leave the unit, the one who wants to leave ama (against medical advice)?

  • db2@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    Notable concepts include rejecting coercive forms of discourse, gathering facts through observing without evaluating, genuinely and concretely expressing feelings and needs, and formulating effective and empathetic requests.

    Why the fucking fuck does that need a name? People incapable of such basic communication aren’t really going to be fixed by slapping a weird label on it.

    • CrayonDevourer@lemmy.world
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      11 days ago

      It reminds me of people on LGBT forums and seeing shit like: “I’m a man, and I like women, but I don’t feel sexual attraction towards all of them, only the ones I feel a connection with; what are my labels?”…and wanting to scream “NORMAL! NORMAL IS YOUR LABEL! WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?!”.

      Meanwhile everyone is like “Oh, you’re ace+/romantic”…/sigh…

    • fubbernuckin@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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      9 days ago

      Well clearly it’s making OP think twice about it. I think it’s completely possible for people to lack some component of these communication skills simply because they haven’t had anything that brought them to their attention before.

      And to be fair, berating people who don’t understand these concepts doesn’t “fix” them either.

    • masterspace@lemmy.caEnglish
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      11 days ago

      Because once it has a name, it makes it easier to describe and reference in research literature, and thus makes it easier to draw conclusions on.

      Everything has some super specific name that professionals in some field use for it because they regularly need to distinguish it from other similar thing that the broader public does not care about.

      • Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
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        11 days ago

        Great

        Use a different name as this has nothing to do with violence and it is unhelpful. Violence is physical and as soon as you make any inconvenience in communication “violence” then you just get lost in pedantic semantics.

        • makeitwonderful@lemmy.todayEnglish
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          11 days ago

          The creator of Nonviolent Communication didn’t like the name either. He said he used it because it connected him with people around the world to share his ideas.

          Do all demands have an assumption of violence attached? (do this or I will force something to happen) I am failing to think of ways that demands don’t have implied physical violence if they are genuine.

          • Optional@lemmy.world
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            11 days ago

            The creator of Nonviolent Communication didn’t like the name either.

            So they fucked up. Hey, words are hard. I get it.

        • masterspace@lemmy.caEnglish
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          11 days ago

          You realize that when you speak up just to ask other people to use your specific definition of a word, you’re the one getting lost in pedantic semantics, and that can also be addressed by you not doing that, right?