• OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca
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    5 days ago

    I believe everybody is bisexual at first

    Then you’re bisexual. If your “first” instinct was that both genders could be attractive, you’re bisexual. But societal pressure convinced you to only seek out heterosexual relationships.

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      4 days ago

      Also just because you have fantasies at some point, doesn’t mean you will follow the and they won’t “go away” in the future. That’s just your brain trying to figure out the unclean mess that sexual orientation is.

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        4 days ago

        That is true, however, I think the resolution influences the result. I can be wrong, but there isn’t really an experiment where someone tries to convince kids to be gay and see the outcome. It’s just become forbidden to think this amongst the progressives for no reason.

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          Such an experiment would be highly unethical and of doubtful interest. After all, you already know sexuality develops without influence, is it useful to know if it develops differently under pressure? To do so it requires to possibly ruin people’s live, that’s why it’s not done.

          Also, we already have the opposite experience: gays being convinced to be straight. As far as I know, it doesn’t really work and only creates suppressed emotions that ruins their sexuality.

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            4 days ago

            That’s no different from growing up in a straight world. So that’s why it doesn’t have an effect.

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          4 days ago

          No, but they’ve tried the reverse. They’ve tried and tried convincing gay people to be straight and it doesn’t work. That’s not how it works.

          If you think you have a choice to be one way or the other, then you do. Because you’re bi.

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      4 days ago

      No I’m not. It’s not about attraction. Biologically it doesn’t matter who stimulates your genitals. Then I found girls attractive, but that came way after I could have an orgasm.

      Prove me that it’s not because of the environment.