And you have summed up why I block those communities. There are surely cases of people abusing power, but a majority of it is just people wanting to stir up shit.

I have to use all for browsing and just block communities and instances that I don’t care about.

No there is never a situation where consent isn’t involved or given before hand

Where do I fall if I find women that terrify me attractive?

You need to make that clear in the title.