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  • Che Banana@beehaw.orgOPtoBuyFromEU@europe.pub•Just a reminderEnglish
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    26 days ago

    Just do you know, this link was given to us from someone who left the US to live abroad and ended up in Ireland using this link to get started (with nothing), they eventually got to a regular job (quite a few years ago but still around the same area) and recently connected with our family and our oldest son has now moved there to that same job and, for him, is an amazing hit to get his life in order to live on his own.

    I cannot tell you how amazing the people of Ireland are, there was even a retired couple who offered him a place to stay-and we only knew them for an afternoon!

  • Che Banana@beehaw.orgOPtoBuyFromEU@europe.pub•Just a reminderEnglish
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    26 days ago

    Welllll in Spain you just need your doc to start you on gender affirming care and your info is legally changed.

    Our son (who was our daughter) has been through the process, and it is amazing.

    He may never get his name legally changed in the US because you must apply in person in SC and that shit ain’t happening.

    https://www.workaway.info/en/hostlist

    HERE is a link to escape.

    You can get out, and give it a chance before you make a permanent choice.

    Do not let the fuckers win by not fighting.

  • Che Banana@beehaw.orgtoMemes@lemmy.ml•I'm not even doing rad shit. All this, just to exist somewhere.
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    6 months ago

    My son is currently in the same boat, he’s gone to check out (talk to counselors , look for housing, and jobs) and will be transferring his school in the spring for his final year, and has a job lined up at the beginning of the year (with housing) until classes start. He’s back home until then helping out in our place.

    On another note, the anxiety and stress about the existential dread of working until you die is going to be there and my only advice is my experience in breaking up my short term goals- I only have to survive X years here doing this and then go to college, then another X years there , then X year in each position until I reached a “sustainable” place/salary with a partner and kids at this point to be witnesses to my (many failures) shenanigans.

    I say X years because sometimes it was years, sometimes months. For example I signed up for 4 years in the Air Force, but that was broken down into 2 months basic, 2 months training school, 2 years overseas base, 1.5 years US base with a 8 month temporary duty overseas again…each part was shitty, but less shitty than the time before and in some interesting places.

    I guess what I’m trying to TLDR is that if you break up your early life I to smaller achievable goals it will help you get to where you can have a life.

    Now housing and pay is another story that, man…good fucking luck and know you have most (some?) of us Gen Xrs cheering you on.