• mang0@lemmy.zip
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    No. Vaguely implying that someone has a problem is very much a personal attack. I understand that you’re upset by my opinions but how about you cry me a river?

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      “what’s your problem?” is a common expression. it’s a phrase, it isn’t literal.

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        Either way you interpret it, there’s no constructive intention. Simply saying it and not elaborating is an insult, a personal attack or whatever you want to call it.

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          yeah, no.

          it just straight up isn’t.

          if you think it is, then that’s a misunderstanding of the expression on your part.

          it was neutral, and it was even accompanied by an “lmao” to indicate that it shouldn’t be taken all that seriously.

          if you choose to interpret it only in the strictest possible, probably because you were already upset in the first place, I’m sorry to say, that’s on you. not them.

          it was an okay-ish comment:

          neither especially offensive, nor especially friendly.

          maybe read it again when you’re more chilled out? merely a suggestion…